My mum always told me…fall in love but never love your partner more than you love yourself. Many make the mistake of giving all of themselves to someone and forgetting about their needs and self-worth. I have regrettably made this mistake once before. I may sound like a selfish individual by telling you to put yourself first (in terms of feelings) but if that makes me selfish then so be it. There’s wanting and loving someone and then there’s loving someone so much that you become them; what they see, hear and feel…..being emotionally reliant. Losing that emotional independence in a relationship is not healthy.
100% is the ideal but 90% is enough….you never know when you will need that 10%.